Infidelity happens to be one of the most horrible experiences a person in a relationship has to go through. The harder part is that when you accuse your partner of cheating, you will be met with denials or worse, blamed for it.
But now it has become much easier to discover a partner’s unfaithfulness. Emails, text messages and chats leave a long trail of evidence which you can easily get your hands on by installing a spyware app like Xnspy, FindMyFone etc. on your spouse’s phone. These apps allow you to get access to all of the digital evidences your cheating partner may have left behind. It tracks and monitors call logs, text messages, social media activity, the places they have visited and also records calls remotely. But that should be your last resort, using a spy app. There are some tell-tale signs that are indicative of an affair.
But at the same time, you should keep this in mind that it is quite possible that even if your partner is guilty of these behaviors and signs, they might not be having an affair all. The reason for this is every relationship is different and what might be taken as a warning sign in one might be nothing to wring your hands about in another relationship.
So, here are some of the rather obvious mannerisms and behaviors that hint that your partner could be having an affair:
- One of the main signs that something is wrong with your relationship is when you begin to lack intimacy with your partner. There are fewer hugs, lesser kisses and almost no I love yous. Or when a partner begins to cheat, they might start to become more sexually active with you and you may see a whole new side of them you hadn’t seen before. This they might be to compensate for sleeping with someone else.
- Your partner goes MIA for long periods where you have no idea where they are and you are unable to reach them. These occurrences are repetitive and begin to happen quite often and when asked, no viable explanation is given. They do not respond to your texts or calls. It is not normal for a committed couple to go out of touch for long hours wondering what on earth happened.
- Giving gifts and making the other person feel loved and appreciated is part of a relationship. If your partner isn’t much of a gift giver and all of a sudden you begin to get ‘just because’ gifts when it isn’t your birthday, anniversary or work promotion even, then it might be a clue that your partner might be feeling guilty about something and is trying to compensate for it. If date night is cancelled or some other plan, then the flowers or cooking your favorite meal is a consolation price.
- When you make a new friend even and spend time with them, it is rather natural for you to pick up their language and talk like them. Similarly, when a person is having an affair he picks up their expressions that is also a sure sign that he is spending quite a lot of time with someone when you haven’t heard him using such words before.
- A sudden new routine is a sign of changing things up. For example, your spouse had a certain routine and all of a sudden they are following a new routine religiously, that is something to think about. Like going to the gym straight from work when it is not them to go to any place direct from work. They had been following the previous routine for a long time now and have adopted a new one all of a sudden.
- There is no harm in taking care of yourself, looking good and paying attention to your clothes. But if your partner has suddenly become too conscious and is buying new clothes is spending too much time on their looks etc. it means that they want to look good for someone and it is not you.
- If your partner comes up with outrageous suggestions or something you people haven’t done since high school, it could be worth thinking because it is a known fact that having an affair makes you feel young and spontaneous and his new found affair is the reason behind his outrageous suggestions.
- Another notable thing is their overall opinion of cheating and having an affair. Say you mention that your best friend’s spouse cheated on them and they answer rather defensively that it was not a happy marriage. Affairs happens. People fall out of love. Why such a reaction? Because condemning others means condemning oneself and looks like your partner is ready for that.
Last but not the least, the other person realizes that he is cheating on you and as a result the guilt and anxiety of the affair makes them distant, irritated or even depressed. The weight of what they have done is too much to bear and this may result in disinterest in everything, eating as well as insomnia. They might not be able to bear your presence even.
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